I wish there were a non-problematic, socially acceptable way to find out someone’s sexual orientation. This has been an issue TWICE today.
First, I was having coffee with a beautiful man* from school, and we started talking about a prominent professor we’ve both taken classes from. This professor is brilliant, but has some really troubling views on gender/LGBT+ shit. I mentioned this as one of the reasons I declined to take several of his classes and said “Yeah… that issue is kind of non-negotiable for me…” and he gave me a really funny look because I know he assumed I was straight. I wanted to be like “No, I’m queer, but I like both women AND men, so even though this is just a friendly coffee date please don’t think I’m not interested because I TOTALLY AM” but that would have been totes awk and so I just let it sit there and made sure I flirted with him a bunch later. Ughhh.
And THEN, a few days ago I met a pretty lady and invited her out for coffee sometime. Today she got back to me and said hey, let’s actually get dinner sometime! Is she straight and just wants more time to chat than over coffee? Does she like ladies and wants to make this a date? WHO KNOWS.
WHY IS SOCIAL INTERACTION SO HARD. HOW HAVE HUMANS MANAGED TO SURVIVE THIS LONG WHEN DATING IS SO HARD. I DO NOT EVEN KNOW.
*No really, this man is the most beautiful person I have ever met. I do not even know how it is possible to be that aesthetically perfect.